Losing weight

Like most psychologists, I see many obese patients.  They inevitably have the same story of how they have tried to lose weight or actually lost it, only to immediately regain the weight they had so laboriously lost. 

I have come to a working conclusion as to what went wrong and what might be tried to fix the problem.  All these patients had something in common beside their overeating:  what little pleasure they had in their lives came from eating.  They had no real fun or pleasure from other sources, except such passive pleasures as watching television, playing around on a computer or reading.  When they set themselves to losing weight, they became increasingly unhappy.  The primary source of joy in their lives was shut off.  Their only positive rewards were in what seemed a distant future.

The solution to the problem may lie in the following suggestion:  We should not give up eating until we have developed another source of pleasure in our lives that is as frequent and rewarding as food.  Food is easily obtained and is always satisfying.  What will we find to replace it?  Exercising is rarely a source of joy even remotely comparable to food, so that's not going to do it.  No one prescription will suffice, because the source of our happiness and joy is peculiar to us as individuals.  We must have access to this source of satisfaction as readily as we do to food.

It's hard to lose weight.  It becomes harder when our lives are joyless.  And we can't count on joy in the future.